So here’s something I never thought I’d say: social media has been spot-on with this October Theory trend. Typically, I’m not one to follow social media fads—let’s just say I’m from a slightly earlier generation than TikTok’s main crowd. But October Theory resonates with me, especially when I think about it through the lens of the Bridges Transition Model, a change management framework I often return to. This model has something powerful to say: real change doesn’t start with a “new beginning”; it actually starts with an ending. And as we move from October to the end of the year, it feels like the natural time to reflect on what we’re leaving behind, celebrate what we’ve achieved, and prepare for what’s next.
October has become, for many, a time to pause, reflect, and recalibrate. We’re on the cusp of a new year, and the excitement for fresh starts in January often overshadows the valuable period we’re in now—a time to honor what’s come to an end, reflect on the year’s accomplishments and lessons, and make space for something new.
The End that Fuels the Beginning
In William Bridges’ model of change, three stages mark every transition: Ending, Neutral Zone, and New Beginning. Before we can start something new, we must first acknowledge what’s ending, consider the choices we’ve made, and recognize what we’re ready to leave behind. This theory has always helped me approach change more thoughtfully, especially as the year closes. October feels like that “neutral zone,” where we can pause, look back, and make sense of the experiences that have shaped us throughout the year. It’s a time to honor what’s come to an end and consider what we want to bring with us into the next season.
Think about it: when we make a goal in January, it takes time to prepare ourselves, our relationships, and our resources for the change. We all need time to work through questions like, “What am I letting go of?” and “What has this past year taught me?” There’s also an invitation to go a step further and ask ourselves, “How can I lay the groundwork for what’s coming next?” Why not start embracing the preparation for change now, before January hits? After all, meaningful change doesn’t just “kick off” with a new goal or resolution; it’s a process that unfolds over time.
Finding My Own Start by Embracing the End
For me, this October Theory has become more than just an inspiring idea on social media—it’s the push I needed to finally start something exciting that I’ve been holding back on for a while. I’ve been wanting to build a resource to help families and children navigate life’s changes using change management tools and theories, combined with SEL practices, yoga, and mindfulness. Small Steps is my way to merge my passion for change management with my personal journey as a parent of a two-year-old.
But let’s be honest: taking that first step can be scary. There’s always the fear that my work won’t add anything new or that I won’t be able to sustain it. At the root of it all, I’m left with that inevitable question: “Is this worthy? Am I worthy?” The fear of taking on a big project kept me in the planning phase for far too long. But if change management has taught me anything, it’s that to get anywhere, you have to start somewhere.
So, here I am—somewhere. I don’t know what this will look like in the end, and maybe that’s okay. I have a vision and a personal goal, and that’s enough to take a small step. Starting from a place of reflection and preparation, I’m hoping to create a journey that’s as valuable to others as it will be for me. I hope Small Steps can offer families accessible, practical ways to build emotional resilience and navigate change.
Reflecting on Your Own Small Steps
As you look forward to the new year, think about this: What Small Steps can you take today to prepare for the year to come? What can you reflect on that has brought you to where you are now? Remember, sometimes it’s not the grand changes that matter most, but the simple steps we take each day.